This right here (and I say that with intention) is the kind of writing that doesn’t just affirm, it interrupts. It interrupts shame spirals. It interrupts generational messaging. It interrupts the performance of self-love that so many of us have been taught to fake just to survive.
The reminder that “summer is going to get whatever body you are serving” isn’t fluff—it’s radical. Especially for Black women whose bodies have been politicized, punished, and praised in unequal measure. I appreciate how you don’t pretend that it’s easy. You hold space for the tight jeans and the tight chest that sometimes comes with them. You let us laugh, nod, feel the gut punch, and breathe again.
And the part about compassion? That landed/deep. I needed that.
Thank you for naming this beautifully and boldly. You’re offering so much more than tips; you’re offering freedom in a world built to distract us from it.
Ms. Maine! Thank you for this deeply affirming comment. I am so so grateful that this resonated with you and that you feen seen and understood. That is exactly what I hope to create with my words. Thank you so much for reading and for taking the time to comment.
Thank you so much,Chrissy! I needed this. I’m traveling soon and always get ruffled by being seen outside of my regular circle. You are such a good reminder of where to place my focus. 💕
Yes to allll of this. If you’re wearing a bikini, you have a bikini body! I’ve had to really create boundaries with friends who complain about their weight because— although I’ve minimized my social media use— listening to them talk badly about their bodies makes it hard for me to talk kinder to myself.
I literally said, “when you pinch your fat and say how ugly it is, you’re also telling me how ugly mine is” and that actually made them understand a little.
Also, the “food is fuel” thing is getting on my nerves because food is fuel yes, but it’s also joy and celebration and culture and art!
I’m rambling. Just wanted to say thank you for this.
OMG, yes to all of this. I think it's so important to set boundaries with friends and family when it comes to negative body and/or food talk. So happy this resonated with you!
Chrissy—
This right here (and I say that with intention) is the kind of writing that doesn’t just affirm, it interrupts. It interrupts shame spirals. It interrupts generational messaging. It interrupts the performance of self-love that so many of us have been taught to fake just to survive.
The reminder that “summer is going to get whatever body you are serving” isn’t fluff—it’s radical. Especially for Black women whose bodies have been politicized, punished, and praised in unequal measure. I appreciate how you don’t pretend that it’s easy. You hold space for the tight jeans and the tight chest that sometimes comes with them. You let us laugh, nod, feel the gut punch, and breathe again.
And the part about compassion? That landed/deep. I needed that.
Thank you for naming this beautifully and boldly. You’re offering so much more than tips; you’re offering freedom in a world built to distract us from it.
Grateful for this space and for your voice.
Ms. Maine! Thank you for this deeply affirming comment. I am so so grateful that this resonated with you and that you feen seen and understood. That is exactly what I hope to create with my words. Thank you so much for reading and for taking the time to comment.
Thank you so much,Chrissy! I needed this. I’m traveling soon and always get ruffled by being seen outside of my regular circle. You are such a good reminder of where to place my focus. 💕
SO so happy it resonated with you!!!!
Yes to allll of this. If you’re wearing a bikini, you have a bikini body! I’ve had to really create boundaries with friends who complain about their weight because— although I’ve minimized my social media use— listening to them talk badly about their bodies makes it hard for me to talk kinder to myself.
I literally said, “when you pinch your fat and say how ugly it is, you’re also telling me how ugly mine is” and that actually made them understand a little.
Also, the “food is fuel” thing is getting on my nerves because food is fuel yes, but it’s also joy and celebration and culture and art!
I’m rambling. Just wanted to say thank you for this.
OMG, yes to all of this. I think it's so important to set boundaries with friends and family when it comes to negative body and/or food talk. So happy this resonated with you!