It’s such a hard habit to break. I catch myself several times a day (not commenting on other women’s bodies but on my own, which I can’t seem to give enough grace to).
I have four daughters, and I see how society has imprinted on them so severely. It’s devastating.
It's a daily practice! And oftentimes, we are absolutely the hardest on ourselves. We say things to ourselves that we would never say to our children or friends or partners. I always try to remind myself that I deserve the same kindness, gentleness, and compassion that I have for others. Sending you lots of love.
Just discovered your newsletter and after reading this article, it was an easy subscribe. Can’t wait to dig into more of your content! This article, in particular, really got to the core of something that’s been on my mind recently. And I’d love to hear your and anyone else’s thoughts on the matter because it’s very possible this is a blind spot of my own I need to work on.
I’ve been hung up on the discourse about Ariana and Cynthia’s bodies during the Wicked press tour. Lots of people very spitefully speculating that they had eating disorders but couching their vitriol in either faux concern for their health or condemnation over A and C’s responsibility to model heathy body standards for their young fans.
I do think it’s reasonable to call out celebrities when they do things like hawk tummy tea or post blatantly pro-Ana content on their socials, but whatever is going on with these women isn’t one of them. I know Ariana has struggled with an eating disorder in the past, but until she chooses to address her relapse publicly, I don’t see the good in all the public speculation. It’s definitely not helpful to her because it just reinforces the fact that yes, her body is and always will be a topic of discussion. And concerning the modeling bad behavior thing: it’s like a pop-star that’s struggling with drugs or alcohol. Sure, we all want them to get help, but their addiction isn’t a moral failing.
Sorry for rambling, I’ve just love to hear more perspectives on my take. Do want to be clear that I am not saying being harassed for living in a skinny body is just as bad as being harassed for living in a fat. That’s gross and categorically untrue. I’m just over talking about all women’s bodies regardless of size. It’s none of my damn business.
Hi Kate! I'm so sorry I'm just responding to this. I somehow missed this comment. First of all, thank you for subscribing. Secondly, I very much agree with your take. I absolutely believe in calling out celebrities who engage in harmful diet culture, selling tummy tea or being blatantly fatphobic, etc. But when it comes to conversations like the ones swirling around Ariana and Cynthia, I am absolutely opposed to it, because like you said, we have no idea what is going on with those folks bodies. It's harmful to assume or to comment or speculate. I think it goes back to the fact that it's really never okay to comment on anyone's body and I agree, I'm absolutely over women's bodies being the topic of discussion
It’s such a hard habit to break. I catch myself several times a day (not commenting on other women’s bodies but on my own, which I can’t seem to give enough grace to).
I have four daughters, and I see how society has imprinted on them so severely. It’s devastating.
It's a daily practice! And oftentimes, we are absolutely the hardest on ourselves. We say things to ourselves that we would never say to our children or friends or partners. I always try to remind myself that I deserve the same kindness, gentleness, and compassion that I have for others. Sending you lots of love.
Yes. Absolutely. Thank you for the reminder 💜
Just discovered your newsletter and after reading this article, it was an easy subscribe. Can’t wait to dig into more of your content! This article, in particular, really got to the core of something that’s been on my mind recently. And I’d love to hear your and anyone else’s thoughts on the matter because it’s very possible this is a blind spot of my own I need to work on.
I’ve been hung up on the discourse about Ariana and Cynthia’s bodies during the Wicked press tour. Lots of people very spitefully speculating that they had eating disorders but couching their vitriol in either faux concern for their health or condemnation over A and C’s responsibility to model heathy body standards for their young fans.
I do think it’s reasonable to call out celebrities when they do things like hawk tummy tea or post blatantly pro-Ana content on their socials, but whatever is going on with these women isn’t one of them. I know Ariana has struggled with an eating disorder in the past, but until she chooses to address her relapse publicly, I don’t see the good in all the public speculation. It’s definitely not helpful to her because it just reinforces the fact that yes, her body is and always will be a topic of discussion. And concerning the modeling bad behavior thing: it’s like a pop-star that’s struggling with drugs or alcohol. Sure, we all want them to get help, but their addiction isn’t a moral failing.
Sorry for rambling, I’ve just love to hear more perspectives on my take. Do want to be clear that I am not saying being harassed for living in a skinny body is just as bad as being harassed for living in a fat. That’s gross and categorically untrue. I’m just over talking about all women’s bodies regardless of size. It’s none of my damn business.
Hi Kate! I'm so sorry I'm just responding to this. I somehow missed this comment. First of all, thank you for subscribing. Secondly, I very much agree with your take. I absolutely believe in calling out celebrities who engage in harmful diet culture, selling tummy tea or being blatantly fatphobic, etc. But when it comes to conversations like the ones swirling around Ariana and Cynthia, I am absolutely opposed to it, because like you said, we have no idea what is going on with those folks bodies. It's harmful to assume or to comment or speculate. I think it goes back to the fact that it's really never okay to comment on anyone's body and I agree, I'm absolutely over women's bodies being the topic of discussion
My friend and I had tshirts made that day "mins your own body." I love wearing mine to the doctor!
OMG! I love this so much!!